As a parent, it’s your job to lead them in the right direction and set a good example for them. They are going to look up to you for guidance, love and support. Parenting isn’t easy as it sounds. It can be quite challenging even for the best of us. It is not about checking off a list of things but rather a journey filled with ups and downs. In order to become an excellent parent, you need to understand your child first before doing anything else. Know who they are as individuals and their needs as an individual person before thinking of parenting techniques or strategies to raise them well-adjusted adults one day. As much as there are many ways on how you can nurture your kid into a wonderful adult, here are seven simple tips that could help you get started:
Establish a strong relationship with your child.
The key to raising beautiful and healthy kids is having a strong relationship with them. Yes, you need to be a good listener and have a hands-on approach when necessary, but first and foremost, you need to have a strong relationship with your own children. There are a lot of ways you can do this. One of the best ways to do this is by listening to your children. Sit them down and ask them about their day, things that happened to them, what they learned and what they want to achieve in life. This shows them that you are there for them when they need you. When your child is young, you can read them bedtime stories. As they grow older, you can ask them to read to you. This is a great way to have them express themselves and share their thoughts and feelings with you.
Don’t try to be your child’s best friend.
You will not be able to raise your child into a well-adjusted adult if you try to be their best friend. You need to understand that you are their parent and not their friend. They need you to be their guide, support system, and someone they can look up to. There are times when you need to scold your child or punish them for their misbehavior, even if they are your child. You should know how to draw the line and set boundaries for your child. You don’t want to be too quiet and reserved or let them get too close for comfort, but you also don’t want to be overly friendly with them and let them cross the boundaries you set for them. Be friendly but maintain a certain level of distance. Let them know that you are someone they can depend on but not their best friend.
Be present. Listen and understand.
Being present with your child means listening to them when they talk and not just hearing the words they are saying. Just because they are adults doesn’t mean they don’t need your guidance and support. Being present also means understanding their needs and what they are going through. If they are struggling with something, ask them if they need help. If they are going through a rough patch in life, be available to them and walk them through.
Help them discover their passion, talent and unique gifts.
As a parent, it is your job to help them discover their passion in life. You don’t want to impose your dreams on your child and make them pursue what you want them to. Instead, you want to help them discover their own talents and gifts in life. If you notice that your child loves to play with toys meant for younger children, you can ask them why they like playing with those toys. You may find out that they want to be a teacher when they grow up. If you notice that your child likes drawing or writing stories, you can help them develop their talent. Let them pursue what they love doing and encourage them to keep pursuing their dreams in life.
Be firm but not Heavy-handed when needed.
You don’t want to be too hard on your child, but you also don’t want to spoil them. You need to understand that being hard on your child is not the same as being mean. You need to have firm boundaries and set rules for your child. Let them know what is acceptable and what is not. This is how they will learn to respect themselves and others. Let them know that you love them and care for them, but at the same time, you can’t let them do whatever they want to do. You need to be able to draw the line for them and not let them cross those lines.
Offer unconditional love and support.
As a parent, it is your job to support your child through thick and thin. Let them know that whatever they are going through is okay and that you are there for them. You don’t have to have the perfect life or be the perfect parent for your child to love and respect you. They need to know that you love them no matter what. When they make mistakes, let them know that they can always learn from their mistakes. Help them understand that making mistakes is not the end of the world. Let them know that they can learn to pick themselves up again if they ever fall.
Be a role model
Kids learn most of their life skills from their parents. If you want to raise your child into a wonderful adult, you need to set the right example for them. You don’t have to be a perfect parent, but you need to be an excellent one. You need to lead by example. If you want your child to be kind, you need to be kind to others. If you want them to be generous, you need to be generous to others as well. If you want to raise a child who is responsible, resourceful, confident, and creative, you need to be those things too. You need to lead by example because your child is always watching you. They are always taking note of the things you do and the things you say.