How To Get Over The Negative Mind

How To Get Over The Negative Mind

Do you ever feel negative about yourself? Is there a part of yourself that's always looking down on other people? Whether you're happy, sad, angry, mad, or just generally feeling down - negative thinking can get you in the habit of being negative all over again. The more negative you are, the more likely you are to have self-defeating thoughts and be stuck in past-due situations. When you first learn that your "negative" energy hunkers down next to your new positive one and requires positive attention in order to work magic on it, it can be easy to see why so many people look to positive thinking as their go-to-cure for everything from problems to setbacks. But is it really possible to get over the "negative" part of our brains and be truly happy? And how do we do that from inside and out? Let's take a look at what it takes to break through the crowd of negative thinking Ghosts and learn how applying these simple steps can help make your day brighter. 

• Start by giving yourself a break. 

As we've just discussed, negative thinking is a by-product of being human. We all have a part to play in the success or failure of others, and it can be easy to get stuck in a cycle of judging and feeling negative about others when you're in the wrong. However, there are better ways to start the "freezy" than with the notion that you have a "bad" side to you. Start small and long-term by slowing down the process of judging and instead, treat everyone you meet with kindness and respect. If a friend catches you suddenly throwing a tantrum or getting out of control, say sorry and get it out of your system. This kind of thing doesn't happen suddenly or by chance but rather through experience. And experience tells us that when we slow down and take time to "recollect" what's happening in the room, the "negative" energy that's been build up inside us slowly but surely will be released. Which is exactly what you want to happen - positive energy appears and then, within seconds, it's gone. It's like a button pushed, giving you the "freezy" in a ten-second burst. So, practice slowing down and taking your time with the process of learning how to be happy. 

• Fight the "negative" thinking. 

Let's start by discussing how you managed to turn your negative energy negative in the first place. First of all, don't take yourself too seriously. Doing so would only make you care less about what's happening in the world around you and you would have less reason to be "negative" about it all around. Think of yourself as a character in a story - a person who has control over their feelings and is able to step back and reflect on what happened in the moment to turn the "negative" energy into " Positive." Take your time in while out of negative thinking - you don't have to think out- barrage someone with your negativity before they've had a chance to get started. Instead, try to recognize the feelings coming off of you and then allow yourself to be overwhelmed and defended against. Eventually, you will notice a difference - in how quickly and deeply you are able to get out of "the negative" energy and into "the positive" side of you. Accept that it may feel like you've been in a funk for the past few days and that it's okay to feel that way. But don't stress yourself - it will pass and you will feel better in the end. 

• Realize that you have a point. 

As we've just discussed, the more you apply the "positive" mindset, the easier it will be for you to break through the "negative" part of your brain. And the more you realize that you have a point, the easier it will be to start living your life according to that point. For example, you may have a friend in need. If you know that your friend needs you, then help them out - whether that be taking a few minutes to help them completion their tasks, offering to pay for their breakfast, or even lending a helping hand when possible. However, if you don't know where they're coming from, what they're going through, or what they want, then help them out only to the extent that you know what you can offer. Help them see that people are probably going through similar struggles as they are and that there is a purpose for it all. This kind of thing doesn't happen very often but it does happen nonetheless. 

• Take your time and be patient. 

It may feel like there is never enough time in the world to do everything that you want. When you are only able to do something for a few hours in a week or even sometimes only days, you are likely feeling negative. However, don't just rush things - take your time and do things that take your mind off of everything negative and give you the time to think about what happened during your "freezy" and come up with new ideas and strategies to help get through it. For example, you might decide that it is important to spend time with your family so that you can be there for them when they need you. Or you might decide that you need to spend more time with your friends so that you can stay in touch with them and stay alert so that you can take care of yourself at home and at work. Or you might just decide that you need to spend more time with yourself so that you are more aware and self-sufficient so that you are able to take care of yourself and your loved ones more effectively. 
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• Be empathetic when making personal connections. 

If you are feeling negative towards someone, they may be feeling the same way towards themselves. If you are constantly feeling negative, it is important to remember that you are only as successful as the people around you - and the people you love, too. When someone is feeling negative, it is normal for them to come out of it feeling stuck. It often feels like they are hanging out with a group of negative people who are all attacking and chiming away at their positive. Instead, embrace the chance that someone will start to feel good because of what they have been through. You may not be able to save everyone, but you can sure as hell help those around you gain some confidence and learn how to take care of themselves so that they can save others, too. This kind of thing doesn't happen very often but it does happen nonetheless. 

It is important to remember that it is not what happens that makes you happy, but what happens when you are happy that happens. We all have things that might make us unhappy, but if we allow them to happen, then what comes out of them is always going to be negative. Try to stay positive when you can but also remember that positive thoughts are CHEAPER than negative thoughts are free. So, if you are feeling negative today, just see what you can do to turn it into positive energy. Apply these tips to your life and you will see how easy it is to get over the "negative" part of your brain and be truly happy!